tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-870571950265897006.post5819791127779227575..comments2023-10-20T05:33:01.095-07:00Comments on Sugarplum Creations: Talk to meSugarplum Creations Bloghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15404300168941549805noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-870571950265897006.post-1208991751738271592010-08-19T05:38:31.203-07:002010-08-19T05:38:31.203-07:00First, I didn't have that on our invitations a...First, I didn't have that on our invitations and there were some kids present- they were of age to sit quietly. We did pay for sitters at the church for the very young children in our immediate family. Secondly, I don't think anyone has to go far from home (say Wal Mart, for example!) to see the variety of parenting philosophies our society has, and quite frankly, I wouldn't want those children over for dinner. A wedding is a joyous event- yes. But it's also a time when a couple is [hopefully] making a solemn promise before God to one another and I think it's totally understandable to eliminate the distraction of whining, talking, or crying children when this is supposed to be THE day we've all dreamed of! We've all been places where you think, "why don't they just take.them.out?!?!?!" (Who wants to hear that on a video for the rest of their lives?) I would think that if a person were asked to be in a wedding or was extremely close to the ones getting married, a personal phone call asking about options (like a sitter at the church for a baby) would be entirely appropriate.Tara G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09199251979718649256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-870571950265897006.post-50954139227443331062010-08-03T11:30:44.416-07:002010-08-03T11:30:44.416-07:00I was one of those brides that didn't want chi...I was one of those brides that didn't want children at my wedding. In the end my niece and nephew were invited, after long conversations with my husband. Now looking back I understand why others were upset by it, and luckily the weddings we have been invited to allow kids to come since I have brought nursing babies to the last few weddings. I guess at the time, since I was younger and had little experience with kids I just wanted to have an adults only party. I can understand why others want the same, but now that I have three kids I can understand the flip side of it. I never bring my toddlers since Jon and I choose to treat it like a date night when we can, but if I have an infant (and with three kids in 4 years that is often) it is much easier to bring them!mindy2780https://www.blogger.com/profile/06023719431853091738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-870571950265897006.post-40059376983963672192010-07-29T10:25:04.610-07:002010-07-29T10:25:04.610-07:00I think it's a bit rude to state that kids are...I think it's a bit rude to state that kids aren't invited. I think if it's an evening wedding, most adults with kids would try to leave the kids at home with a babysitter and make it a date night. That's what we do. I don't think it has to be stated. If it's a day wedding, we would definitely bring the kids! <br /><br />We had an evening wedding, and the only kids there were the ones actually in the wedding. We never told people not to bring children, they just wanted a date night! The ones who did have the kids ended up leaving early to put theirs to bed, so that was kind of a bummer for them.Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11451797365712728579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-870571950265897006.post-44612261825013067302010-07-29T08:52:48.742-07:002010-07-29T08:52:48.742-07:00Glad you had a fun mini-vacay!
I don't know w...Glad you had a fun mini-vacay!<br /><br />I don't know what to say about the no kids at a wedding...we had some at ours, and they were not a bother. But, if I could do it over again...three are several adults I would un-invite!!!!Busy Bee Suzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18115487928147732314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-870571950265897006.post-1505105758026995342010-07-29T07:23:01.492-07:002010-07-29T07:23:01.492-07:00OK...first, fish fry....YUM!!! Whew, glad I got t...OK...first, fish fry....YUM!!! Whew, glad I got that off my chest. About the kids, maybe it's later and they don't want to worry about kids being up late or people not coming because kids will be too tired??? A lot of times too when people don't have kids they don't realize how hard that can be to ask for no kids allowed.Kellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15985457347225776111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-870571950265897006.post-62394988449207183452010-07-28T22:15:48.498-07:002010-07-28T22:15:48.498-07:00I think it's sad to not invite children to wed...I think it's sad to not invite children to weddings. It seems selfish too, like the bride or groom doesn't want any attention taken from them. Who cares? They need to get over themselves!<br /><br />Anyway, I think you did the right thing by not going years ago. You are a Mom first and if that girl couldn't understand that, then maybe she will when she has kids someday.<br /><br />I think the best part of weddings and receptions is the children. They crack me up and I love to see them having fun and dancing all night!<br /><br />As far as the recent invitation, 5 hours is pretty far away. With a wedding and reception, you'd probably need to spend the night. Is this person worth a hotel expense? LOL!Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00342467790727259855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-870571950265897006.post-59516942695021933862010-07-28T19:03:58.441-07:002010-07-28T19:03:58.441-07:00Ive never been to a wedding that kids werent allow...Ive never been to a wedding that kids werent allowed to go to, so I have no insight! Im with you on understanding the reception maybe as far as paying for more guests with the kiddos or the adults being a little wild with the alcohol consumption. But not sure why kids couldnt go to the actual ceremonyshortmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18083148312260283511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-870571950265897006.post-35126773496337521642010-07-28T16:06:11.753-07:002010-07-28T16:06:11.753-07:00I have mixed feelings on that too. We had kids at...I have mixed feelings on that too. We had kids at ours..but it is just preference. <br />Did I just read fresh baked bread? On my way. YUm is right.He & Me + 3https://www.blogger.com/profile/03692972824923390203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-870571950265897006.post-60397399482860355032010-07-28T14:50:46.302-07:002010-07-28T14:50:46.302-07:00My husband and I were married pretty young, at 19....My husband and I were married pretty young, at 19. Being underage, and having many underage guests, we didn't have any alcohol. Sometimes, I think, that's part of the decision behind the "adult affair." The weddings I've attended that were billed that way, definitely were a little more free with the drinks. Consequently not everyone behaved in a manner that was kid friendly. It's a hard decision to make, whether to attend or not. I will add though that the one wedding I went to that they INSISTED I bring my kids because "Everything is more joyful with children!" is the one where the bride got mad and snapped at my three year old for telling her (apparently too many times) that she was a "Beautiful Princess."Lynettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08575228584666873008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-870571950265897006.post-63821275087325033982010-07-28T14:32:35.033-07:002010-07-28T14:32:35.033-07:00I don't have any answer for you other than may...I don't have any answer for you other than maybe they think the kids will be to much of a distraction. <br /><br />How is the house coming along?Foursonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07470306593323990269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-870571950265897006.post-53603901694382764132010-07-28T13:47:48.088-07:002010-07-28T13:47:48.088-07:00We've gotten invites like that too and usually...We've gotten invites like that too and usually end up not attending also. More times than not, I find that it's usually more about children being viewed as "nuisance" than anything else. They don't eat much, they usually sit on laps...but I think that many people rather they be "seen and not heard" but don't want to risk them "disturbing the peace".<br /><br />That's always sad to me, but I have to remind myself that these people are just getting married and don't know the blessing of children...yet! When they have 'em, they'll understand that the real party is the one with kiddos :) They are GREAT dancers after all :)Grace~The Mommy On the Bushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02415033363688082792noreply@blogger.com