Friday, September 9, 2011

To the ladies at the grocery store . . .

. . . and the one at Target . . . and, yep, even the one at the doctor's office. 

Listen, please.

I am aware that I have four children, and that they are all girls.

Let me interrupt myself by saying, it does not bother me in the least when someone stops me at the grocery store to tell me that I "look like I have my hands full".  I do have my hands full.  It doesn't really take a rocket scientist to see that.  But, I love it!  I love that I'm kept busy all day, every day.  Life would be so very boring {and quiet!} without them.

But I do kinda mind when the comments turn rude-ish.  Especially

First of all, if you have to start a sentence with, "I don't mean to be nosey", then guess what, you're probably being nosey.  Please don't touch my new baby on the face.  Please do not count {out loud} and announce the number of girls I have.  And then proclaim while shaking your head as if to feel sorry for me, "You tried so hard for that boy, didn't you?"  And then proceed to say to my 2 month old, "Your mama was supposed to have a boy".  And then look at your husband and say, "Can you believe that?  Four girls."

Because, I don't even know what to say to that.  Honestly?  I know what I'd like to say.  But I don't even know how to respond to that in a tactful way.  Mostly because I am completely shocked.  Shocked that people have the audacity to say such things.  And shocked that people really and truly believe that it's any of their business at all.  And, by the way, having four girls in a row does not qualify us for the Guiness Book of World Records.  Mkay?

Would we have loved to have had a boy?  Of course.  Can we imagine our lives without our four, precious daughters?  Absolutely not.  Because from the moment I heard the words, "it's another girl!", I was elated.  A precious, healthy baby girl. 

So, the next time we run into each other, and you feel the need to say something, try this:

"Four girls?  Wow.  You are truly blessed."

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Jenny said...

People are so stupid! That would be so annoying!

Your girls are so beautiful, they are probably just jealous :)

Holly said...

I can't believe that people think it's okay to say those things! You're girls are so precious & you are so blessed to have all of them! :)

Adventures In Babywearing said...

Makes me sick to my stomach! I of course heard it (and still hear it) with "3 boys and then a girl" ... my hands are better full that empty!


Foursons said...

I'm so sorry people feel they have the right to say such stupid, hurtful things. You are so VERY blessed with 4 beautiful, healthy, happy children. Your cup runneth over.

Jessica said...

Feel sorry for them, Liz. They have no idea what blessings they are missing out on with such a pessimistic mindset.

Mama 2 Four said...

It is crazy that people feel the need to be so intrusive and rude, as if God's plan is wrong. Our God knew before the creation of the world that He was going to give you four Sugarplum girlies, and He also knew that it would be good!!! Very Good!!!
I hope you and your precious family have a wonderful weekend!!!

Connie said...

What the heck is wrong with some people!!

Your girls are all BEAUTIFUL!

Impulsive Addict said...

Lemme guess....they were old(er) people weren't they? They are always so rude. I love your advice for what to say. You ARE truly blessed. I just want more kids regardless of gender so I'd ask the good Lord for 3 more girls or 3 boys. Whatever. I'll take just one more also. lol

Way to vent about it girl!

Kelli said...

You are absolutely have beautiful, healthy children.

I don't even understand people and I wouldn't know what to say either! Sigh!

~~Mel~~ said...

Can't stand 'those ladies' myself...they were around when I "was much to young to have a baby".

And no you are certainly not the first family to have 4 girls - I know of a family with 6!

Abra said...

that could so end up being us, and hello, it is totally awesome! that really frusterates me too! can you believe i get "your hands are full" with only two kids?!

Geri said...

Well.., hmmm.., just sayin I am blessed because you have four little girls ☺

Kelli @ RTSM said...

I get that all the time with my boys! I get the sad eyes/I feel so bad that you didn't get a girl looks all the time too! Which truthfully {and you know this already} I would have loved to have had a girl...but I wouldn't trade Eli for a girl any day of the week! At least with four I bet most people don't ask if you are going to try again for a boy....I still get asked that about trying for a girl!

Rachel Sue said...

People really need to think before they speak.


MomBrose said...

We get the same thing with "just" three. I still get the "are you going to try for a boy?" What's so great about boys?!! You ARE blessed.

Busy Bee Suz said...

you ARE truly blessed...and I know you know that.
People are weird...I have two girls and I have had people say to me: I bet you wish you had a boy.
huh??? Are you crazy???
Oh, never mind...I was ranting.
I know you are above saying something like:
"Oh, I bet YOUR parents WISHED YOU were a BOY."
Cause that would not be nice.
But it would feel good.

MiMi said...

This irritates me.
People always bug me, including my own freaking family, that I have two boys. Like the second one was a mistake and a fluke...should'a been a girl!
And I better have another! That way it will be a girl. Cuz you KNOW it would be. WTH?

Kristen said...

HA! I get stuff like that, and I only have three. I have a friend who has 5 girls and 0 boys...they are not bothered by that. They get stuff like that all the time, too. Grrr. What is wrong with people? When people tell me I have my hands full, I tell them, "Better full than empty." Some people would rather say something than just keep their mouth shut, which is what they should do. And yes, you are BLESSED!!

Angee @ Sunshine in my life said...

I have to admit I gasped when I read this. Some people are just so rude. You are truly blessed. I get told my hands are full all the time and I only have two. I can't help but wonder if I look like a hot mess that's why they feel the need to comment. Oh, I'm a new follower.

Jessica said...

Were you still suppressing a bit of your feelings even in that post?? ;-)

I hate when people think they have a right to commment on other's families... and I totally hate when people touch my babies face or hands. HELLO!! I'm the rude mom that makes you wash your hands before you hold my little one.


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